介绍一下美国婆媳过招
我主张在与老人的关系上，青年因为年轻应该做出更大劳动。崇洋派说美国青年成家便分居,没有什么中国式的婆媳问题,其实未必尽然.我否定上述观点的前提是:美国未必是完全的工业化信息化、家庭关系动物园化的国家。现在介绍一下《读者文摘》网站摘选的一篇文章，鄙人尝试翻译个大概，便可佐证一二。
13 Things Your Mother-in-Law Won't Tell You
婆婆不明说的十三件事
Build a better relationship with his mother by remembering these things she'd like to say but won't (you hope!)记好下面事情，这些是你婆婆不肯明说给你听的,而你想她说出来。记住下面要点,建立和谐的婆媳关系
1. I spent a couple of decades being the leading lady; now I have a character role. It hurts to be downsized.
俺费了二十年才熬出了头。现在有个模样，可不能小瞧俺。
2. I know he's your husband now, but he's still my son.
俺知道他是你郎君，但还是我的崽子呢。
3. You don't seem very confident about yourself. The littlest comment from me is taken as a criticism, so I'm very careful what I say around you. 你个妮子不太自信。我说你丁点话都以为是吹毛求疵，一提你俺就加了小心。
4. Every year, I send you a birthday present, but you never even pick up the phone to thank me. This year, I said, "That's it. No more." Yet look at me: I'm about to send another present. I guess that's how I am.
每年，俺都送个生日礼物给你，可你连个电话也不打。今年，我发过话：“这么着吧，别怎么地啦。”可瞧瞧我呀，还是要送你个礼物。俺想我就是这个德行。
5. We mothers say to our children, "I want you to be happy." And we mean that. What we don't say is, "But I would like to be happy too."
俺们婆婆辈的人对自己的孩子说：“我想让你们过得幸福。”是掏心窝子的话。可俺们没有说出口的是：“俺自个儿也巴望着幸福呢。”
6. I've bought and sold 13 houses in my life. Why won't you ask for my advice?
买房子卖房子我干了十三回呀！你咋不问问我的主意呢？
7. When I visit you, I'm not coming for a white-glove inspection. I'm just coming to see the family.
俺来瞧你们时，可不是戴白手套视察来的；俺是来看看这个家。
8. When I really want to talk to my son privately, I don't call your house. I call his cell phone.
俺真要和自己儿子说私房话，不会打贵府电话的，而是拨他手机。
9. I'm so happy that you allow my son—your husband—to visit me on Mother's Day. It's a long trip and a big expense. I'm truly appreciative.
让俺高兴的是：你还许可俺儿子你郎君在母亲节时瞧瞧俺，赶远路、花大钱的。真让俺赞许呀。
10. My dirty little secret: I'm afraid that if I don't get this right, you'll cut me off.
俺私心底小秘密是：如果得不到这点权益，你便要切断俺与你们家的联系啦。
11. I'm in competition with your mother. She takes you on vacations every year and buys things I can't afford. All I can do is love you and babysit for you. I hope that's enough and that it's appreciated.
俺与你娘家妈有一比。她带你度假给你买东西，俺却掏不出银子。俺的能耐是爱你们给你们带崽子。俺以为做的够多，应该得到理解待见。
12. Whenever I stay at your house, you always have my room ready, my towels, everything. You do all the right things. I'm lucky to have you!
俺一到你们家待着，你常常把俺屋子收拾利索，连俺的毛巾啦等物品。你事事做得都好。有了你俺真幸运！
13. I cherish the refrigerator magnet you gave me: "Age and treachery will always overcome youth and skill."
俺珍藏着你给的冰箱帖，上面写着：“年老诡猾的常会压倒年轻多能的。”